10x More Dangerous

This week I’m going to teach you how to be ten times more dangerous as a private investigator, process server, security guard, loss prevention officer or fugitive recovery agent by being more patient.

I’ve wanted to share this with you for years and have been waiting for the right time and the right opportunity.

It’s a very interesting thing. There’s a lot of tricks, tips, and secrets that I share, especially my public records training, that can be used by the good guys and the bad guys. Right? Training that can be exploited both ways. But, what I’m about to share with you I can share it with anybody and it won’t help the bad guys because they simply won’t do it!

Most of the bad guys don’t have the impulse control or the ability to delay gratification needed to be more patient and thus be more dangerous. But you do. Right?

So… I don’t mean being ten times more dangerous like being able to throw a one-punch knockout or anything like that. I’m talking about, in a way, being much more effective at your job as an investigator, security professional or process server.

Look, being effective at your job is dangerous to the bad guys, right? That’s dangerous to the other party. If you’re working a child custody case and you’re effective at bringing evidence to court that the children will be better in the care of your client rather than the other parent, that’s dangerous to the other parent. It’s the same in criminal defense work or anything else. Being more effective is very dangerous to whoever your opposition is.

The key is the magic word “patience”. Being more patient.

In Proverbs 16:32 it says, “A patient man is better than a warrior”. That’s powerful!

Of course, what we do, the very nature of our jobs as private investigators, is to try to help people, but it’s frequently it’s in an adversarial situation. There’s a plaintiff. There’s a defendant.

Or if you’re working security, there’s the people you’re trying to protect and there’s people who are trying to hurt the people you’re trying to protect or steal from them. We live our professional lives in this adversarial relationship. Being better than a warrior is pretty powerful.

How does this manifest itself? How do we become patient?


Surveillance is the easiest example for me to give you. You instinctively know, if you’re willing to sit on a house and watch it the way you’re supposed to, being patient will pay off.

If you just show up for 20 minutes and say, “I don’t think anyone’s there”, and you leave, only to come back a couple of days later, put an hour in, and leave. Than later you go out, spend half an hour, decide you have to grab something to it – wow! That’s a recipe for disaster. You’re going to miss everything!

However, if you’re patient, if you go out there and sit, and sit, and sit, and wait, that is powerful. That’s when you catch stuff.

Sure, you do this long enough and you know we all have that experience where you show up and immediately something happens. And that’s actually great, but that is the exception, not the rule, right? Patience in surveillance makes you more effective and dangerous.

Process Serving

Alright. Process serving. Same thing. Being ready to go out to where you’ve got to go. Don’t be anxious about it. Don’t zip out to one place and then change your mind and go to another place. Be patient. I guess this kind of rolls into diligence or tenacity as well, but being patient pays off.

Practice Everyday

In a day-to-day situations, put down your smartphone. Be patient.

You don’t have to immediately respond to every little thing. You’ll just end up making mistakes. Saying something you shouldn’t.

If there’s anything online that triggers your emotions? Maybe it makes you angry or pulls at your heart strings? Anything that gives you that strong emotion, immediately stop and give serious thought to passing it by.

Sometimes it’s just bait. Right? Especially on social media.

Or that scam email that says your debit card has just been charged of something you didn’t order!


I have said it before. Probably the single biggest thing that gave me success early in my career as a private investigator was tenacity. Just not quitting. I just kept going. I would say, “I’m going to find this guy, no matter how many dead ends my skip trace comes up against”. Whatever it takes. If it’s legal and ethical, I’ll do it.

I’ll pull his mom’s trash and go through that, looking for an address. I will not give up. Tenacity was probably the single biggest key to my success, but look how patience folds into that.

To decide, “I’m going to do surveillance at his mom’s house and wait for him to show up. No matter how long it takes”.

Also, I’ve been reminded again, that I am woefully neglectful of reminding you that I do have a free report called, If You Want to be a Private Investigator, Give Up, Unless You Do These Three Things. It’s free and it’s right here…

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And, as always…

Do the right thing, even if it’s the hard thing.

Committed to your success,
Larry Kaye,
Private Investigator
& Best Selling Author

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